So, a guy you had been talking to a long time, long distance, and you knew had mood swings, gets together with you only a few times. He gets drunk, assaults you, screaming in your face.

Why did this not trigger a flight response in you? Why did/do you not get rid of him? Do you think you are saving him? You have a fantasy of helping him?

It doesn't work that way. He's really bad news. His telling the cop you were threatening suicide was really, really bad! This is escalating.

I can't believe your friends would tell you to give him a chan ce because he only abuses you while drunk! These are friends?