I can relate to what you are saying Elsa. It's hard to explain how you love the individuals who hurt you. That you are on a level of how "hurt people hurt people" and you can see the whys and you don't want to condemn them. It is also hard to find a way to open up and talk about this with a therapist. It's understandable how in a group situation it can be even harder.

Yes, and this is how dysfunctional people react when they don't want to admit their own fault in their behaviors. They put all their effort into making others feel guilt and shame.