You're not broken! But shifting perception can be so hard; it's like making a bed when you're in it :-) If you can't/won't tell him exactly what you wants, he can't read your mind so how's he supposed to know? His job isn't necessarily to give you what you "want", either. So even if you did tell him, he wouldn't necessarily follow through on it.

His job is to help you, in his way, become the best gerber that you can; he's more a cheerleader than a player on the field though. As you're playing the game of Life (hate that metaphor :-) when you get tackled, his job isn't to rush out and make you feel better "physically" but to help you learn how to get up, "shake it off" evaluate what happened and how to adjust for the next play.