Msinfiniti:

I understand and sorry for what you're going through yet time will heal the stress and pain we put to ourselve, indure to ourselve. Live life to it's fullest and always take care of yourself. I had been married for 15 years and divorced for 10, now I am in the professional arena and look back to laugh as to what happen to my marriage. Of course my xxxguy/husband still try to get back yet I had moved on just a note to you.

This is not an advice nor I can tell you what to do here are several issues or situation you might want to consider in the realm of your relationship. A relationship just it is a relationship one of the most challenging aspects of one's life. Figure out what are the advantages and disadvantages in getting back together with someone who apparently had given himself the boot in the relationship. You did not do it he had made that choice when he had the affair last summer as you've stated you have to acknowledge that his other half walks out the door and will never comeback. If you stay in this relationship I will be honest with it is selfish to get angry be mad and resent your husband because it is what you're feeling at this time. It is useless and hurtful towards you and only you. Time will heal it and time keeps rolling. Asks yourself this is morning and evening stops because he is not around? No the world still keep moving so be kind for yourself maybe this might not make sense to you now but it will.

Be kind to yourself and treat yourself go out with a girlfriend and enjoy life. It is short and there is no point in dwelling with someone who apparently had move on and give yourself a chance to be happy. Do not force your emotion and feelings on someone who do not deserve it, think yourself as a special person that you deserve someone better and believe me you will find someone fitted just fo you.