No one disputes that her old pdoc was rather horrible. He had poor boundaries and created a situation that fostered too much dependence. When it got to be too much, he tried to pull back and finally incorporate boundaries, but by that time the damage was done. I don't think anyone disputes that. He was/is rather horrible.

However, he has repeatedly requested both verbally and in writing, no more contact because there just is no end to it. Hope has repeatedly refused to adhere to that request, and has put herself now in a situation where legal proceeding may be filed against her because she continues to contact him, show up unannounced, etc. She has discussed all of this previously on other threads with great detail and the wide consensus has been that despite how much we all agree with how horrible this old pdoc was, he is perfectly within his legal rights at this point and has made it very clear that no more contact will be tolerated. We all saw the writing on the wall that further contact was probably going to result in a restraining order: her violations of contact have been that persistent and blatant. And out of concern, many have tried to help her find ways in other threads to deal with her anxieties in ways that won't leave her liable to legal interventions. To some who may not be as familiar with all the background, what is being read here may seem wholly judgmental, but it is probably more out of concern that Hope, who is responsible for two other disabled siblings, may now be putting herself in danger of legal repercussions. This is a serious situation, and sitting back and simply saying her actions are okay just doesn't make much sense nor does it really seem supportive. This is a potentially dangerous situation for her and we hope she can see her way to actions that are more in line with her own safety and that of her dependents.