I am really impressed you managed to make the steps to break away, it shows you are still the strong independent person you thought you had lost.
A lot of
That's what makes survivors not victims.
Don't beat yourself up, we are human, we make mistakes, errors of judgement and how can you possibly know someone's true colors until they show you.
You weren't wrong for wanting to believe in him, he just didn't have or want the same beliefs.

I hope your right and that 5000 miles is enough to keep him away. Please remain a little cautious for a while, safe over sorry, and all that.

On a personal note I spent 6 years single after my abusive relationship ended, for me that amount of time has been necessary.
To start with I found it hard, but it became the best time, I loved doing what I wanted to do, just me and the kids.
I had my home how I wanted, and generally enjoyed being a little selfish for a while. I learnt a lot a out what I want and what I willnolonger compromise on.
It taught about self worth, that I was valuable to my kids and those around me, I didn't need a partner for that.

And when I did finally meet someone new,it was a total surprise because I wasn't looking.
Obviously not everyone needs that long, I think I am saying, take your time.

I wish you all the best, and great things for your future,you deserve it.
Keep in touch and let us know how your doing.