I'm sorry, that kind of response from a T would really mess with me too...

I don't think it's 100% necessary to show a ton of emotion in therapy. However, I do think it's important to talk about things that bring up emotions in you, regardless of whether you express them in session or not. I've seen 3 T's over the course of about 2.5 years (had to stop seeing the first two due to one of us moving away) and I've only cried twice. Both times were during the last 10 minutes of my last sessions with the first two T's. However, I have shown just enough emotion (like watery eyes), for them to pick up on how I'm feeling.

I think it is a misconception that you have to break down in therapy or outwardly express all emotion. A good T will pick up on the little things but it's important to be willing to talk about the stuff that caries those emotions.

Have you ever talked with your T about how it's hard for you to open up and express emotion to other people?