Perna, I read the lyrics to that Tony Bennett song and find I don't like them at all! Maybe it is just where I am in my life right now. I have been in denial for many years about the truth of my marriage and I pretended things were just fine for the sake of continuing. I held out hope someday my husband would not be abusive. It was really stupid. My therapist has got me to see what denial I was in. This song reminds me of being in denial and pain, hiding my feelings for the sake of his happiness, even though he cared nothing about mine. If I had read those lyrics several years ago though, I might have thought they were OK and that they supported the approach I had taken. I would have felt validated perhaps.

Interesting question!