I guess the trouble with this situation is that as well as saying nice words to my friend,I need to speak to her about the truth of it which is that she;
made hurtful excuses for not contacting me

told me lies

When she knew I really needed a friend ,turned her back on me and showed no compassion whatsoever ,that's why I've no idea why she bothered to send the card.

Claimed that all the above were due to mental illness,although always seemed able to do things "when it met her own needs".

I feel like,in order to be able to move forward and for my own sake,I need to talk to her about these things.If she's still how she was when we were last in touch though,all I'll get is that she knows what she did is hurtful but"can't" (although I'll read doesn't care enough to) do anything about it.Am I wrong to feel I must talk to her about these things? If I don't raise them,she sure won't.