I'm sorry you feel judged but when someone starts a thread they open themselves up for people to give their opinions and advice on the issue weather they want to hear it or not. Lots of people answer your threads and lots of people suggest things to try and help you. You've got a lot going on and a lot of responsibility and I think more people here than not would like to help you see your way through but the people here can only offer advice and insight and be honest with you. You have the option to take the advice you think will be helpful for you and ditch the rest. Good luck with your decision to leave or stay.