Didn't see the post last night - or the thread - but I have been shocked in the past at some peoples responses to some posts. People are on this forum because they need extra support and yes - they have decided to make themselves vulnerable by posting - but that in no way excuses callous and judgmental responses (especially in the guise of 'being honest', or 'being helpful'). Saying it is the responsibility of OP to handle whatever he/she gets is a horrendous attitude.

Also, from past posts it sounded like you are under the kind of pressure many of us would buckle under, so yes, anyone even attempting "advice" should definitely keep this in mind.