Thanks for input. That was a very interesting viewpoint and I could really relate to what you wrote about feeling judged by others more than feeling that they connect to me or like me. I donīt feel automatically accepted or expect to be accepted. Itīs more like I expect to see differences and when I do, I most always feel inferior.
I feel my shortcomings are that big that I donīt want to reveal everything about them just in the open but instead I keep things to myself and I reason and discuss more with a T than I freely just express what I think and feel.
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Originally Posted by thesnowqueen
Most well-adjusted people are capable of empathy - this allows them to enter into the experience of others (obviously with some limitations). Part of my pathology is an excess of empathy where I pick up the feelings of others and sometimes can't function until I'v managed to ease any discomfort I imagine that THEY are in.
Part of how empathy works has something to do with mirror neurons. Studies have shown that when two people are in conversation they will unconsciously mimic mannerisms of each other. This assists in making them feel what the other is feeling.
Because I was raised by someone with NPD I think I missed out on the primal experience of empathy which means I have alienation as a fundamental default mechanism. (hopefully I manage to one day change this). I tend to assume others are JUDGING me as opposed to connecting or relating to me. It sounds like this may be part of your concern?
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