Thanks for sharing. Yes, probably I do. When I see those "facts" about the T, perhaps a wedding ring, her mentioning a friend and so on, I immediately compare that to my own life and I feel inferior. I imagine her having a nice life, fun weekends, being close to her husband and so on even if the T never says something so specific about her life.
Itīs not about clicking in this case as I donīt see a T at the moment, itīs more like a summary or thoughts about the therapy experiences Iīve had and I see this as an issue which is hard to get by.
Iīll really take the last thought you wrote with me. Perhaps I experience a benefit from not being known. The benefit I can come up with at the moment must be reducing the risk to get hurt, to get ridiculed for who I am, to show just some parts of me. Perhaps that has to do with my childhood and being mocked even if I wouldnīt call it bullying.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Moment
I think you're making a lot of assumptions about your therapist.
People in marriages, for example, can still experience deep loneliness.
To some extent, we are all trapped in our own bodies and minds and can never truly "know" another person.
My therapist is very different than me. He's a man. He's much older. Still, I think he "gets" me on some deep level. I wonder if the issue is the general facts of your therapist's life or whether you just are not clicking.
I also wonder, though, if your feeling of a barrier is one you are constructing yourself--if you have something invested in not being known or feel afraid to be known. It's just something to think about.
|