Thanks. Yes, thatīs very true I deal with loneliness. I would want help with that and Iīve also already tried to solve loneliness issues in my latest therapy but we never reached that far.
Did your T ever mention that she felt you werenīt that close to her or that you didnīt get that attached to her?
For some T:s that seems to be very important, that a client can bond with them and open up.
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It sounds as if loneliness is something that you are dealing with and would like some help with, if that were possible? Is that correct? Is there anything else that you can think of that might help?
I was with my last T for 6 years, got attached in some ways but was never really close to her, never very vulnerable. I went into that therapy with a basic lack of understanding about relationships -- how they functioned, what they were, even. That was a divide we never bridged. The "relationship" that we had in the therapy ended in a rupture without repair. If she couldn't reach me and my ways of reaching out didn't reach her either, then. . .it just didn't work, even after 6 years. It wasn't a total waste -- I worked through some trauma stuff. But did she understand me? No, I don't think so. Can one have a "relationship" anyway? Well, we did have the business relationship, but it seems to me not a whole lot more.
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