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I honor my parents every day and visit the cemetery often.
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A couple of things came to mind. First, it's possible that you are at a point where you are trying to figure out how to mourn and process what happened. When a trauma takes place, especially from what you have described, the brain/mind can linger in a "freeze" for an extended period before an individual can slowly think about what this traumatic loss meant to them, and grieve all the complex personal parts of what was lost. This is what can contribute to the nightmares, and that is because our brains try to process whatever we experience each day during the night.
The thing about this processing is how each person taps on whatever they have on file in an effort to figure out what to do with a trauma. Sometimes, there simply is not enough present in an individual to achieve that and sometimes whatever is there "adds" to the trauma in confusing ways where one can get very upset in their sleep and from what you are describing, your body is reacting during these nightmares as well with sweating and sometimes even wetting the bed.
I am wondering if you experience these night terrors when you visit your parent's graves? Maybe you are doing that too often and it may help to step away from doing that for a while. My post to you in your other thread was an effort to help you to create an inner voice that is telling you it's really ok to go forward and that is really what both your parents want for you, and this would be from their spirit that is not part of the trauma or even at their graves.
You also may be struggling with this:
Complicated Grief - Prolonged Grief Disorder
I have PTSD, yet one of my therapists asked me to read about complicated grief to see if I could identify with the symptoms.
You suffered a great loss and you were still very young, and too young to have the ability to know what to do with this traumatic loss.
It sounds like you are trying to figure that out even now.
It's very challenging to figure out what to do with all these confusing feelings that are presenting from slowly trying to move forward after this traumatic loss.