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Old Mar 29, 2017, 07:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Echos Myron View Post
You're probably right, thanks JD.
In my (long) email to him i said sorry for sending it and he​ replied:

Hi Echos

It's not a problem for me. Inevitably a muddle of feelings for you and much better to put them into words than keep them all inside.

Take care,

T

I logically know that the "it's not a problem for me" bit was in response to my apology, but i can't help hearing it the other way. Also, a muddle is putting it a bit lightly. Not his fault though. Just sod's law it happened right after i saw him. It does help to imagine him saying it in person.
This sounds a lot like how my T tends to word e-mails. Where she comments on the fact that it's OK/good I sent an e-mail, but not much commentary on the actual stuff I said. Which is hard when I've sent her paragraphs of my thoughts/feelings. Or she might say something vague like, "Interesting thoughts. Let's discuss next week." (I assume she just doesn't want to do therapy over e-mail.)

MC is more likely to comment on the actual content, but then he'll throw in something like "Good job," as in his recent e-mail (where I thanked him for his advice on processing my daughter's assessments and said I shifted how I was thinking about it as a result of what he said), and then it feels kinda patronizing.

I like JD's idea of thinking of your T saying it in person. So much is lost over e-mail/text (even phone) that you get in person. Then tone of voice, look in their eyes, body language.

Hope you're doing OK and getting some sleep.
Hugs from:
AmandaBroken
Thanks for this!
AmandaBroken, Elio, Out There