I hope you know that I really do appreciate your phone call. When I told you that I like the check in and it feels good but it also feels indulgent, you told me that I ignore my own needs too often. I'm sure we will discuss this. Growing up my needs were a nuisance to others. I'm often in pain and I forget that I've neglected some need and that's why I feel awful. I've learned to ignore my own inner signals that I don't feel right. I worry that if I listen to that inner signal I'll be asking for all sorts of phone calls emails hugs etc. I'm trying to keep the neediness in check. Do you really want me to release that monster?