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He said that he wants 2x per week to be a set thing so that I won't get hurt-- because in the past we would do 2x per week during a break from school or something and then have to stop because of the schedule change-- and of course I would be devastated. He said that even if sometimes we can't do the 2nd session, then it will be done by phone in order to keep the 2x per week thing going.

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This is a good thing you do need constancy as I do. I'm glad that he is going to work this out for you.

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He told me that he no longer wants to adhere to the strict psychoanalytic method that the center wants the therapists to do. He said he doesn't want to be a blank screen-- so he needs to go elsewhere. I told him how much I appreciate that he told me that.

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I'm glad he told you this too. My T and I have discussed the blank screen versus a more interactive therapy. My T isn't the type to be quiet (his words too) and neither am I. In fact, now that I realize all of the therapy types out there, whenever there was a therapist that I would see who would sit there and blankly stare at me, I never went back. It was humiliating to me that I would say something about myself to a perfect stranger who should be helping me and I get a blank stare back...

That sort of therapy doesn't work for everyone and I'm glad your T is acknowledging that and making adjustments.

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It will be weird to come out of therapy without the comfort of the skyscrapers. I always look up at them once I step outside of the building, as if to say-- yes, I am still here.

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I miss those skyscrapers too. I loved hanging out on the waterfront at Rock Lobster and dancing with my friends outside...loved it!

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It was funny-- we were talking about the blank screen thing and how he doesn't want to be like that... and he said, "I answer questions, don't I?" And I said, "Well, you better start if you're gonna make me drive all the way out to the suburbs!" And he goes, "You better, too!"

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My T and I have had a similar exchange on this topic. I love your T even more now...

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After session I went to one of the accesory stores and found a silver teddy bear charm on a silver necklace. He is very sparkly. I bought him and am wearing him now. For some reason, it is very comforting.

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This is part of what I love about the therapy relationship, taking something from our T's and clinging to a symbol of sorts out of session.

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Damn, I love him.

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I've said it before but in case you missed it...I love him too! I'm glad you have him and I can feel how focused he is on you and helping you.