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Originally Posted by prefabsprout
This resonates a lot.
I think as girls we are raised to be 'nice', to be considerate, caring, and those are all good traits but it becomes problematic when we come up against those who disrespect our boundaries - because we are lead to believe that we should not be 'aggressive'. To be self assertive is not to be aggressive, but I think many of us (me included) confuse the two.
Maybe your T was deliberately trying to provoke you into reacting in a self-assertive manner? Idk she might just have been a bad T, but it's a thought?
I am so glad you are recognising the negative impact this has had on your life, and no anger is not always bad - especially when we channel it constructively.
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Do therapists really do this? Provoke? It sounds like head games and now I worry this is what's been done to me.
To the OP, I can relate to much of your feelings and thoughts on this topic. I don't have solutions but you have my deepest sympathy. Someone mentioned boundaries and I learned a few years back how insanely flimsy mine are....I thought that figuring it out would fix it but as soon as I let my guard down, I invite some other loser into my life, whose mission statement and life goal is to cross boundaries and emotionally torment. These people don't just fool me, they fool my family also. I'm a magnet for abusive personalities. I'm sorry you deal with this too. Boundaries need to be forged in steel to survive I think.