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Old Mar 30, 2017, 10:28 AM
WrkNPrgress WrkNPrgress is offline
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Wow. NO.
"bored" is the key word here. I had a therapist for a short time that tended to end up chatting about her own interests. I left her. Any time you get that bored feeling listening to someone who is paid to listen to you - Leave. Get a new therapist.

A therapist's attention and time should be spent LISTENING and responding TO THE CLIENT. Period. The therapist should NEVER make the session or the conversation within that session about THEM.

For the first two years of my sessions, my current (good) therapist never brought up her own life and never her own opinion except in very sparing instances when it was applicable to my situation— and every time she would parse it carefully and add "Is that okay to tell you?"

Furthermore, the phrase "You should..." alone is a red flag in this context, IMO. The therapist should also not be suggesting ways for you to change your appearance! they can compliment you on something, yes. Affirms your self-image, yes. The ultimate goal is self-acceptance! If you want to change something and need encouragement for that, yes, but suggesting something based on her own ideas of beauty? Oh, hell no.
Thanks for this!
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