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Originally Posted by Erebos
Hi hope, wasn't here when the last thread was up so I just wanted to ask what was it you expected to happen when you approached your old T?
Bearing in mind he had specifically said he wasn't interested in being your T or your p-doc.
I want to know what you were needing /wanting from this man?
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It is my guess, unsatisfied attachment. It is truly awful when therapists' actions cause some of us to become too attached and reliant on them, then all of a sudden, when they realize what they've done, they pull back, thus causing the client damage. Perhaps retraumatization, if they were abandoned in this way in their younger years. I have seen it too often on this forum where this happens, and it scares me. Therapists make it so they carry a person's heart in their hand, then squash it when they realize they didn't follow their training on boundaries. Honestly, I think some therapists also get very attached to their clients, and when they realize it, they back off. I'm not saying that's what happened with hope, but he seemed to raise boundaries one day, leaving her hanging by a thread. This therapist damaged her, I believe, and I'm thankful she is seeing a new one who hopefully can help her relieve the pain of the last one. Hope, I just hope you keep yourself safe by pretending your ex therapist doesn't exist. Even though he no longer has you as a client, he still seems to have power over you. I think he was quite unethical. Have you considered, maybe, reporting him? It may give you something to do with this hurt and anger, and help you feel more powerful yourself. Maybe that might provide closure for you?