Yes, talk to people at your "local" VA office, they can advise you well: https://www.cem.va.gov/burial_benefits/

I worked for MOAA, the Military Officer's Association and they have an excellent, booklet: http://www.moaa.org/uploadedFiles/Co...ials_final.pdf

There are people at your closest military base that can advise you too; they have a whole "social work" sort of structure for active members and families and retired/veterans, etc.