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Originally Posted by milianoart
Firstly Entity06...
I cant tell you how completely at peace your message and especially your words put my heart in. Thank you so much!
I spent 2 years, being there early hours taking her place while her son was very ill in hospital... I used to sneak in cooked food late at night cause she was hungry and well couldn't leave her son bedside, scared he would cry.
All along I fell in love with him and then her, cause she is truly a wonderful mom. But yes, her and her husband have 8yr marriage, and I never intended to complicate her life, but instead be a solid friend, but through struggles and being there day after day...even the sons b-day dad would not even show, I would setup a party and gifts and again always in the background...never could say it was from me, although her mother new.
I will do as you said, and I will keep on being myself, and hope I meet the right girl. I love to be a dad and even more a husband , and I know my true soul mate is near. thank you all of you , this has helped me so much.
In closing my biggest challenge is I don't want to believe that those years spent together, meant nothing to her...and she could just close that chapter after her words she is completely and totally in love with me is still fresh in a letter months ago before she went quiet and just cowered back to her hubby...well I thk.
Entity, as the saying goes it takes a wonderful person to know one, thank you truly.  |
Wow, I wasn't expecting my humble attempt at a well thought out reply to have that big an affect but I'm glad if it did! You don't have to thank me for it.
I gotta' say, if you're really like you sound, I'm sure I am not wrong in saying most people, men and women, would love to have a partner and friends like you! So you definitely deserve all the best and someone who is ready to reciprocate.
Now, I obviously don't know this woman and can only judge based on your side of the story(which, as honest as it may be, is still not providing direct access into her mind), but I would say it's unlikely she doesn't or didn't care for you. You clearly formed a strong bond and through sharing of tough moments, which tends to help emotional connections as it involves vulnerability, trust and support. It's unlikely she was lying so it's probably just that she's confused and scared and caught between two lives, with a child who will always be directly affected by all of the decisions she makes.
In the end you can only give it time and try to discourage her behavior, like I said in my first comment. The distance will help you too and it should help her make up her mind. She's in a situation where this behavior is sort of understandable but it could also be that she's emotionally not very trustworthy, in the sense that the way she feels isn't super steady.
I do hope you won't let a bad experience change your gentle, loving heart because the world could use more men who are not afraid to be that way. I'm sure you'll find someone great.