I think you already know which option is the healthier, more mature choice to make. (The second one is kind of unrealistic and just a tad sexist, to be honest).

I'm wondering how many people would need to tell you that Option 1 is the better choice before you decided to go with it. 10? 100? 1000? When it comes down to it, it has to be YOU and YOU ALONE that decides what path you will take. We can scream Option 1 until we're blue in the face, but if you're not willing to put in the work then it simply won't happen.

It's your life and you have to choose how to live it. I wish you the best of luck.