I'm not attached (as I define it) to my t of over 8 years. I do trust her though. I don't think the two go together. I trust her because she is consistent (took a few years to learn that), seems knowledgeable, has never deliberately hurt me. It was only after a few years of me testing and her remaining consistent that I was able to talk about my abuse history. When I felt I needed to talk about some aspect but didn't know how, I would tell her that and she was good at helping me speak. I like my t, but I don't think about her, don't want to be her friend.