I don't think you have to feel attached, but there does have to be a degree of trust that the therapist is an ally. I've been seeing my therapist for about 2 and half years and we have not gotten into any trauma material. Even just touching on the edges has caused problems, so there is still more work to do around having more ways to cope and calm down and even then it will be very slow. It has taken most of this time to understand that trauma is even playing a role in my symptoms, so it;s only recently that we've even talked about therapy in terms of trauma recovery.

Maybe that's something to keep talking to her about--the "hows" or plans for "hows" of next steps. It's up to her to guide you through this. You can't know on your own.