my grandma is turning 86 in april. ever since my grandpa died about 6 years ago she has started to lose it mentally. she has fallen several times and broken her hip so she is now in a nursing home and in a wheel chair. well i went home for thanksgiving and wanted to go see her. when i got there she thought i was my cousin, sarah. which she ALWAYS calls me sarah but usually she figures out that im jessica, not sarah. this time it never occured to her. so she was asking me about my uncle but calling him my dad. any time i correct her she gets so embarassed and starts calling herself an idiot and feels very bad so i just let it go. one time she was talking about her friends from the 50's and then said "what year is it?" and i said "2005" and she got so embarassed.

she was diagnosed with alzheimers but that title has recently been taken away. i think its more just she has lost her will to live since my grandpa died. she has told me, and others, several times that she just wants to die. she's ready to and everyone else is to. no one likes seeing her suffer like she is.

anyways, she seemed so unbelievably excited that sarah was there to see her. i just couldnt tell her it wasnt sarah because she kept going on and on about how sarah hasnt been to see her in forever and how happy it made her. my brother yelled at me telling me that i have to correct her and i have to bring her back to reality. but heres my thinking, she doesnt have that much longer. if seeing sarah makes her that happy then thats what i want. if thinking its 1956 makes her happy, then i want her to think its 1956. making her feel bad isnt what i want and i dont think that telling her when she is wrong about that stuff will do anything. shes losing it no matter what so if shes happier in her own world, then i think she should be that way. do you think im hurting her by letting her think what she wants? i just like seeing her happy and when she realizes what shape shes in shes not happy.