Hi Jacq10,

I'm new here. Hope it's okay to respond to your post.

I think anxiety almost works the other way for me. I won't even be aware of anger or there is no clear angering trigger, but, I'll be VERY anxious. When I have the right mind about me, I can step back and ask, "what am I angry about?" Often it is a very old hurt about which I am angry, but about which I hadn't allowed myself to be angry. I'm better with having anger now than I've ever been in the past. But, I have all of this pent up anger from when I was a kid. I was taught/believed that anger was a "bad" feeling. Therefore, to be "good" meant to never be angry.

The anger comes out somehow. For me, right now in life, the stores of anger manifest as anxiety among other things. I'd rather just be angry! (Well, I'm working on it).

I think it's great to notice that our anger and anxiety are connected. I find that for me anxiety is lessened when connected to some sort of source. It's easier for me to have feelings that are in reaction to something, rather than to feel as if my feelings are random and in control of me. That only increases my anxiety!

Thanks for your helpful post. I hope this doesn't feel like I'm hijacking your thread.

~doubtful