That is the same question I have!!!! Screaming about this from the rooftops is not the reaction I had at all. I blamed myself unfairly for both situations and I think her reaction contributed greatly. I have several other "betrayals" from friends in my life. I just don't understand at all. They all had terrible lives and family situations but That doesn't excuse it at all. I need to get over this paranoia that overwhelms me....I have nightmares about my most trusted loved ones turning on me in a similar fashion and situations, and it's so real feeling and so painful.