A friend sent me a check for $500 a couple of weeks ago. A gift for helping them, putting up with them, sort of a little atonement for how they had treated me in the past, for possibly overpaying for something, deciding to forgive them for past insults and fights they created.

They had to make sure they had money in the bank (they're wealthy but had to transfer money between savings/checking - not an unusual thing for them.) They were busy. I went out of town. I was busy. There wasn't a rush. A week later, this person was being their insulting, surly drunk self when they phoned. We had an argument. The next day they apologized. OK. I ASKED that night if they still wanted me to cash the check after everything, they said YES "will put money in bank tomorrow." I told them, "Let me know for sure when I can. No rush."

Three mornings after, I texted to say I was going to go to my bank later. Even gave a time frame out of courtesy. They told me not to because their rent check had cleared and it would bounce. I said, "Ok. Well, let me know."

Few hours later I get an email; because I was "still angry" over the drunken argument even though they apologized (I wasn't), and 'cause I was being "arrogant and mean," etc., they canceled the check. I wasn't being anything of the sort!

For this reason, and our up and down history, I told this person goodbye. I felt betrayed though I'm not sure I should. I told them they were a sneak and a coward to do such a thing, rather than call and ask me personally if I WAS being all the things I SEEMED like in text.

I feel terrible. I've known this person for years. I feel awful for telling them "goodbye and good luck." I've been crying periodically. I miss this person and the way they used to be. I don't know if I did the right thing, but at the same time I don't see how I could trust their word, or loyalty, or their ability to keep from mistreating me.

What they did really, really sucks. But I really, really hurt.