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Originally Posted by prefabsprout
I am sorry you are feeling this way after moving back home Mr.S.
It is usually hard for any adult to return to their parents home, I have seen this before. The old parent-child dynamic can appear, and for an adult used to running their own life this can be very stressful.
I would normally encourage you to talk to your parents about how you are feeling, to gently let them know that you are not a child now but an adult who until recently ran his own life and coped independently. But from your previous posts I am not sure this would be helpful for you, your parents do seen to have very 'fixed' ideas.
Please don't dismiss the idea of marriage/partnership, now may be not a good time to bring someone into your life but how about you make your well-being a priority right now so you will be ready for that move in future?
I really hope you can make your own well-being a priority at this stressful time. You are going through a big period of change and that will take some adjustment. Take it gently and give yourself time and space to consider and plan.
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Talking to them is useless, especially with my mother. She is very aggressive, and if I make any remark, no matter how polite and gentle it is, she will take negatively and become even more aggressive and mad. I am avoiding them most of time. I don't sit with them. For God's sake, I cannot even eat what I want and when I want without confrontation. Abroad I ate whatever I decided whenever I felt hungry.
I agree with you about marriage, and that's why I am not encouraged to make that move now, although at my age, people normally would have been married for at least 6 years now. I am the only one among my all school peers who isn't married in my town. I feel the pressure but I am not thinking to make that move right now. At the same time, I am not hopeful for any change any time soon. So, I am not sure how to get out of this dilemma. I mean do I need to change first before getting married and will that ever happen, or getting married and having responsibility could bring change? I don't know
