Hi TBunny, well, you have taken the right steps to starting to change your life. You are here reaching out for help--that is a big step. Change takes time and its a tough thing to do. One thing my therapist and I do is come up with a vision of exactly who I want to be and what I want to be doing. After we decide on a vision for me I come up with a list of ideas on how I can make that vision come true. It is important for me to see myself as the "new me" so I know what I am working towards. It is interesting to sit down and "build" who you want to be in a year. Of course, then it is baby steps in making the changes, but I like how it gives me a goal and focus.