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Originally Posted by Yellowbuggy
I find that different people often react in different ways to the same situation. One person may be "hurt" by something another says or does, whereas another person in the exact same situation will not be. In this sense I think it's hard to define a boundary as healthy or unhealthy by the reaction the individual will have to it. Does that make sense? I think I may be overthinking this...
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That does make sense, I think it's a really good point. There's no objective definition of 'hurtful or harmful' so it seems impossible that a boundary will never be so. Using my previous example - I might really, really want to touch someone (my T, for example, ahem), but their boundary forbids me from doing it. I might feel hurt and harmed by not being allowed to touch them. Does that mean their boundary is unhealthy? Surely not.