I've been trying to figure out in which forum I should post this. There are so many elements to it: ADHD, depression, marriage struggles. In the end, I chose depression because that's the overriding feeling I'm experiencing.

I'm married with one child. I live in the South, in the Bible belt, in the city where I grew up. I met my wife in a big city out west where I lived for many years before moving back to this side of the country. I've been in the same profession for 20 years now. It's one where the workday doesn't necessarily end when I go home. There are nights and weekends where I work occasionally and sometimes, albeit rarely, into the wee hours of the morning. My wife is very unhappy here where we moved several years ago. She's Asian, and as you can imagine there is not much diversity in the small city where we now live.

We've been struggling in our marriage pretty much since we moved here. The first year was okay, but the last four have been difficult, causing me to spiral back down into depression where I'm no stranger. She wants to move back out West because she thinks that'll make her happy. Moving is extremely stressful to me, I feel very depressed and I'm tired of my career. I'm the breadwinner for the family. She brings home a few bucks, but with my well-paying career it's not even a drop in the bucket of our total income.

I hate being the breadwinner. I hate moving. It stresses me out. I hate looking for jobs across the country, especially when I don't even like my job now. I'm sick of this field, but what can I do as the primary breadwinner and husband of a wife who wants to move across the country? I'm basically stuck unless I want to end my marriage.

There you have it in a nutshell. I've left out a whole lot of details due to time and space limitations, but at least I'm talking now instead of keeping it all inside. Thanks for reading.