I think you posted in the right place and I hope you keep posting...

I understand hating where you live. I do. So I understand your wife.

I have learned that life is all about prioritizing....or at least choosing the least worse...

Do you hate your job more than you would hate looking for a new one? Does your wife hate living where she is more than you hate moving? Does the possibility of being less depressed with a change in your life, beat out depression with no change?

I agree that depression makes us think we're stuck. It's how it is. Perhaps a therapist would help you to take a step in a direction that will help you take another step?