Thanks for the replies guys. Yes I live in South Korea but am from England. I do miss quite a lot of family events as a result of that but I find generally it is difficult to make any real connection with my parents or extended family when I know everyone chooses to ignore the elephant in the room and not speak about why it is we haven't spoken. It all feels like a bit of a charade and I have never felt like I could speak openly to my paraents about my own personal issues in the past because the culture in the family is one of pretending everything is fine