It is sad when the choices we made for our life which seemed sobright at the time turned out so bad over time. I am so sad that you are going through this in a country you arent even really comfortable with the language which probably means customs are different also.

I dont have any GOOD solution. Sometimes when we have just had enough & get pushed to our limit than action is forced on us.

I left a bad marriage after 33 years. It was bad from the beginning. After leaving, a T helped me understand that I had been living with a H who was on the Autistic spectrum....higher functioning till the end....& having a dad who was that way too, I didnt recognize the issue until it finally got too much for me to deal with. Our daughter was grown & out of the house by then.

Tough decisions & kids always are our highest priority.

You are definitely in a difficult situation with someone almost impossible to live with.

(Hm, hust a thought, is your wife maybe on the autistic spectrum, it does sometimes run in the family & outbursts can possibly be a part ofthe behavior).

Keep posting as you are able. One thing I found is that expressing my issues helped me formulate my thoughts into action.

Welcome to PC.