Well some people tell me that in some families, the members are NOT harsh to each other. Thats definitely not how i grew up. So yeah i was sarcastic back. I thought we were all kidding. My t finally got thru to me that i was being hurtful to him. Then i realized that my family had been being hurtful to me since like day one, that it wasnt all a big joke. I knew this in my 20's, i just couldnt face that it was true. I couldnt speak it to my then t.