Sidony, your comments in your post are great. Why not say exactly that in group? Group is all about learning to be in the here and now and be your real self and say what you are really thinking and feeling, isn't it?

This right here is a perfect answer:
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Well of course I care, but hell if I'm willing to pursue that one. I mean, obviously I want him to like me better than anyone else but I know that isn't realistic, that he's close to all his clients. So what's the point in being competitive? I never viewed her as my rival.

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