Yeah, I get in that trap, too. MC has been pretty reliable about responding to e-mails and texts (and doing so in a reasonable about of time) the past few months. It occurred to me that it's probably because he has more time, now that he's not taking care of his wife. (There was one e-mail last month that he responded to after midnight, and it made me wonder if, like his teenage kids are doing their own thing, if he's just there by himself and feeling sad and lonely. Though I get the sense he has lots of friends and is close to a couple of his siblings, though they're not local).

Realizing that also made me realize that, the times he said in the past that he was too busy to look at/respond to e-mails/texts for a couple days...he probably literally *was* too busy/had too much going on in his personal life, and it wasn't about me. Wish I could go back and tell the me of a year ago that...would have saved myself lots of anxiety. Of course, this could have a negative effect now, too--if I think he *does* have lots of time, and he doesn't respond, then that might bother me more...

Meanwhile, last night I sent my T an e-mail describing a fight H and I'd had when I got home from session that related to something we'd talked about. I have no idea if she'll respond, but since she'll be on vacation next week, it would be nice if she'd at least say *something*. With her, it's tough, because she'll respond to a few in a row (usually something very brief), but then I'll send her one about something that's really upsetting/stressing me, and she won't respond. (she did respond to a text from a few weeks ago about a fight with H when I was really upset...). I know she cares, but...