[QUOTE=Trace14;5567165I didn't think people would mind answering the questions since this is a public forum and that they may want to be heard and want understanding from others. Maybe someone else will read these posts and get a better understanding themselves. Too many people are judging others these days and a lot of it comes from not knowing that person as a person. We all need to do better with that, I think [/QUOTE]

i agree there are too many people in this world that judge others, if there were not there would be no need for the discrimination laws

but I also wanted to point out that I have found its normal for people on psych central to make judgments. for some its their mental disorder telling them to beware, they are out to harm me. for others they have already been hurt in the worse situations possible so its normal to be on guard. its normal for people to put up their guard when someone who does not have the same mental disorder comes along and starts asking questions with out giving of their self.

I dont mind answering questions but I admit it does get to feeling uncomfortable when someone who does not have the same problems I do starts grilling me about my problem with out giving of themselves in the same respect. my mind starts with the judgmental questions... what is their motive, are they going to try and hurt me, what are they going to do with my answers, are they writing a research paper on DID, are they gearing up / leading up to taking what I tell them and perpetrating fraud with their own treatment providers...

these questions and more run rampant in me when someone who admits they do not have the disorder but are focusing on learning every little detail.

I also admit I was one of those people that came on psych central about 7 years ago like a windstorm, asking questions and overwhelming people wanting to know everything and wanting to supply everyone with all kinds of info, most of which people were not ready for. I learned to slow down, not only take but also give. let people get to know me and my problems. not to overwhelm people with my wanting to learn with constantly asking questions but not giving of myself. It was scary opening up to others but in the long run it went a long way is people not judging me and accepting me and my problems and yes over time people learned I had no ill will in my asking questions.

the best advice I have for people who want to learn and ask questions is not only ask questions about Dissociation and Dissociation disorders but also give of your self too. Dissociation is a problem that comes with many normal, mental and physical health problems so every human being at some point has experienced it. they may not know what it was called but its there people dont have to have DID to post in the dissociative forum so dont worry that you dont have DID. there are other ways to give of one self then being DID here.

question....

what advice do you give to people who want to know about yours or a dissociative problem/ disorder?