My (abusive) parents are coming to town for 2 whole WEEKS this summer and they are staying a mile away. They had said they weren't coming, but apparently that was retaliatory because I didn't take sides or something in some family conflict. My mom is mean as fcck and I spend their visits trying to protect my kids while shrinking into a very small almost non-existent version of myself. I used to just dissociate trough time with them but I can't do that and parent my kids.

My mother probably has an untreated personality disorder, and is an alcoholic like my dad.

And it really highlights the meaning of disorganized attachment because I get so spinny and worked up.

And I've been working hard on all these core issues in therapy so now I'm feeeeeling more and understanding more, yet I feel unable to set more strict boundaries with my mother.