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Originally Posted by samj40
So, basically, I've been really depressed for the past week or so. Like bottom of the barrel, no way out, kind of depressed. I refuse to engage with our local mental health system because it's a joke, though. (They told me to do yoga last time, but that's another story...)
Anyway I've tried reaching out to my SO and they just point blank ignore me. For hours. For entire days. Then I commented how I felt alone and desperate and I get "well you need to give me ways to help". Uh... How about some friggin' compassion? 
It's not the first time this has happened, they won't even engage with me. No calls. No offering to play games. No just talking to me. No, it's MY job when I'm depressed to fill them in on what I need, even though I can't think straight.
This isn't right, is it? I'm even more depressed and lonely because I feel like they don't have my back.  |
I can definitely sympathize with having trouble communicating when stressed. The ideas seem so loud in my head; if only others could hear thoughts somehow.... Unfortunately, our reduced communication ability doesn't entail an increase in others' ability. Your partner can't read minds.
When I'm in a bad depressive episode, the best thing someone can do for me is take care of some of my household chores and/or situational stressors and otherwise leave me the heck alone. Talking at me for the sake of talking, asking to play games, and especially *shudder* phone calls would be counterproductive. Different people are comforted by different things. If one of my loved ones is having trouble, I'd probably try to help them the way I'd want to be helped unless they indicated otherwise (Golden Rule and all that).
Maybe discussing or making a list in advance (while you're in a better shape) will help.