I think you just described my boyfriend to a T. It is so hard watching someone you love throw everything away. We have a 7 month old baby boy. Unfortunately, "Daddy" spends about $50 a night at the bar (we can't even pay our rent this month), and we are lucky if we get to see him before the bar closes. I have tried several times to leave him, but just am not ready to give up on him when I know he could be so much more... My problem not his... Anyhow, I feel for you and wish you the best of luck. Maybe you and I should go to Al-Anon together.