Hi! Thank you for reading and commenting!
I don't know if people assume I'm a lesbian, I gave that some thought too but I haven't had any women express any attraction and never had anyone question my sexuality openly so no idea.
But even so, straight men have no problem finding known lesbians attractive, as long as they're not butch.
Also, people who know me just a little bit will know I'm not a lesbian because I'm open about finding men attractive. It's also true I no don't get to meet people much, I'm fairly isolated without a job and a friends circle.

What really made me feel it's more than people just assuming I'm a lesbian, is that I had zero success at speed dating and online dating, where it's obvious I'm interested in men.

I don't know, I feel so dehumanized and desexualized, on top of being deprived of human need for touch, affection, intimacy, belonging and sexual expression. It's also impossible for me to keep imagining or hoping that who I am, how I am, can actually be to men's liking, not all men of course but a sufficient and varied enough percentage that I actually have a real chance, like most people do. It's like...I'm good and alright but not for this world.

I would really like to meet other nonbinary, non-conforming people, of any orientation but particularly those who feel attracted to the gender society wouldn't expect them to be attracted to(whether that means identifying as straight or bi or pan or any type of queer that includes that gender). Here in Romania it's very hard to meet such people because there's very few if any organized groups or associations and it's not that tolerant of a society anyway.

And I'd also like to hear from straight men of course, if for them lack of performed femininity in the stereotypical sense is a complete turn off regardless of everything else.