I have never viewed "snooping" on my partner's cell phone as an invasion of his privacy. It's not. For me to have transparency in a relationship, that means absolutely no secrets between my partner and I, which extends to social media platforms and email. And I did trust my intuition when i looked on his phone. The text messages I found validated my intuition. I will always disagree with those who poo-poo snooping, because its my right to do so, when I'm in a relationship with someone, when their actions set off red flags for me, and if they refuse to tell me the truth.

There is nothing wrong with looking for evidence of cheating. Think of all the men and women who learned that their spouse was cheating on them, bilking them for the money in their checking accounts, lying about their identity. Do you think those people offered up their deceit without any snooping done by their partners? What do you think private investigators do to solve their cases?

I make it very clear to men I date about my expectations with transparency. If they choose to lie to me, believe me I'll find out. So far, I've been cheated on multiple times and each time it took me snooping on my partner's cell phone to verify my intuition was correct, because whey I verbally asked my partners for the truth, they refused to give it to me.

Snooping is a right to have transparency. The other person may not like it, but too bad. They shouldn't have anything to hide.