Hi, Montana,
My husband is an alcoholic. I'm not going to answer your survey, because it honestly would not be good for you for me to do so. The disease is insidious, but there are groups that can help you learn how to deal - or not deal with the disease as a family memember. They are Alanon Groups.

Leaving your boyfriend honestly is something that you have to come to yourself. . .only you can answer that question, and in doing so be ready to do what you choose to do. If I answer it for you, and you do it, then you can't take the credit, nor the responsibility for the choice. But if you make the decision for yourself, then you will be taking care of yourself one way or the other, a much healthier thing for you to do.

I will say that there is only a 16 to 30% chance of his gaining recovery and staying there.
I will also say that alcoholics that have a supportive family have a better chance of recovery, not much, but better - especially if the family gets into recovery themselves.

With that said, I have a move out date of the last day in Feb. He has agreed to go to AA. But from past experience, the delusions sets in after two days of recovery and it becomes a commitment he NEVER chose to do.

So we'll see.

Beth