You'll learn the most about what's going on inside her mind, if you let her do the talking. Practice the fine art of being cordially interactive, while basically saying nothing. If she starts quizzing you, clam up. You've already told her where you stand and what you have hoped for. Something tells me she's looking for some kind of information from you. She's not planning this meeting to pour out her heart to you.

In a conversation, often, the person asking the questions is trying to be in control. The person answering the questions, often, is being dominated.

There may be something she wants to do with the children that she needs your permission for. Any chance she might be wanting to leave the area to go somewhere?