Give her her own space in your head as well as literally. Don't "crowd" her trying to prove how much you love her in your own fashion, "wait for it" (like in baseball, swinging at the "right" time) to come from her. Giving a woman flowers, candy, jewelry, cards, etc. if that's not what they want can hurt your cause because it shows you aren't thinking of "them" as individuals but just doing the cliche thing. You can't try to "imagine" what a woman wants, you have to get to know the woman as she actually is. Find the movie Three Days on television and watch it (it's seasonal/Christmas so on now). The protagonist guy reminds me of you, Dragonphoto)