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Originally Posted by junkDNA
talking about my shame around my attachment/dependency towards my T and also the shame of even just having those needs to be cared about and nurtured has helped... he's always told me that these needs are very normal and natural, and it's nothing to feel embarrassed or ashamed of. he also tells me often about the nature of therapy and how this stuff arises, and even that he went through the same process in his own long term therapy
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It's great that your T experienced this himself--I'm sure that helps him really understand what you're going through.
Talking about feeling awkward/ashamed for having these needs (and fearing being rejected for them) with my marriage counselor has helped me, too. He's also said that wanting to be cared for is normal. And that it might be good to examine why letting myself want to be cared for makes me so uncomfortable. And that really made me think. Especially because it clearly connects to other stuff in my life (past and present).
I know this was originally about Art (right?), so Art, that might be an avenue to consider. If you're ashamed at having those feelings for T, maybe you also struggle with that with other people in your life?